I guess this is better than any place to start to put down my dating experience in nyc. I'm sure this won't be read by many, but if by chance if anybody does, I hope my stories will enlighten the good guys out there.
Let me start off by saying that it is incredibly hard to find someone when you get to a certain age, especially if you're not the type to go out to clubs, bar hop, and same old things every other city slicker does on the prowl. Don't get me wrong, I love spending time with my boys, playing sports, and occasionally drinking the night away.
The only real way to actually meet someone and create a genuine relationship is through friends and other viable social networks. But then again if you hang with the same group of friends then you will probably never meet anyone. You have to get yourself out there.
I haven't been in a serious relationship since college. Let me see, I graduated in 2006. Since then I had just started to date again in 2008.
Let me introduce myself first before I start. I'm 26, pretty picky when it comes to the opposite sex (they do have to meet certain criteria) but I'm open minded when it's just dating.
The first time I ever met her was at work. She started as an Intern and introduced myself when she came to obtain some equipment for the class. FYI, I learned my lesson for dating someone at work, the cons always outweigh the pros. At first I was only physically attracted to her and didn't see any harm in flirting and getting to know her better. So every time I saw her I would make light conversation and she seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me. At this time I wasn't interested in her and asking her out never crossed my mind. As we would talk, I thought she would drop cues such as talking about her EX BOYFRIEND, or when I would need to see a coworker, she would say "he(me) is looking for me". And I noticed these little incidences as a sign of interest. So I decided to ask her out.
I can't explain to you how nervous I was. I didn't ask anyone on a date since college, three years ago. But I told myself that If I didn't do it I would regret an opportunity like this. I never had a chance to tell her this but she is one of the most beautiful, intelligent, goal oriented woman that I have ever met. I guess that's why I was so drawn to her especially after getting to know her.
She was in the computer lab. I tapped her on the shoulder and blurted out something that resembled a question. You know before going to see her I practiced what I wanted to say but it definitely didn't come out the way it was supposed to. She understood me anyway and said yes and she gave me her number. I pulled out my tmobile wing and she proceeded to call my device "a douche phone". I guess she was trying to be funny. Inside I felt like screaming for joy as I was typing her number in my phone. I was so happy she said yes.
